A short blog on the positive pattern I've seen over the years with couples who need couples counseling in certain arenas of their relationship, but have a sex interaction that while not ideal, they like each other enough to schedule sexytime if given a fresh new direction. The pattern is a couple begins their first session wondering if they're ready for this and I say to just do it and for the moment, put the past and the baggage aside to give the new approach and material a

One debate that you hear if you're listening to different sex therapy or coaching professionals is whether you should be goal-oriented with your orgasms to have bigger and better ones, or not care about whether you have one and just enjoy the ride whether you have an orgasm or not. You get people who are divided in their opinions and stay that way. My position is they both have their place. Let's take the first one. Goal-orientation toward having orgasms as the first step and

New women clients, married or in a long-term relationship, they will tell me how heavy their burden is with frustration and dread vis a vi sex with their partner. There has been an accumulation of resentments over the years, mistakes made by the both of them. The frustration comes from trying so many times and hoping this time will be the one for great sex and/or orgasm, but the same outcome happens once again-- the lack thereof. They want better sex. Amazing sex, but negativ

I decided to write this blog as an elaboration to my About Me page. I've spent more time than I was expecting answering recurring questions from people that boil down to: "Why is your coaching superior? Why is yours the best way to making people's dreams come true?" The majority of us live underdeveloped sex lives mostly because we live in a culture that mishandles sex in a variety of ways. Women's sexual pleasure and orgasm capability has improved since I began my work, but

The Huffington Post article, "The G-Spot And Vaginal Orgasm Are Myths, According To New Clinical Review", by Rebecca Adams draws its information primarily from two sources. The first is Dr. Gail Saltz, a clinical associate professor of psychiatry at New York Presbyterian Hospital. The second is Drs. Vincenzo and Giulia Puppo (married?), who wrote said 'new clinical review' in Clinical Anatomy titled on Wiley Online Library as: "Anatomy of Sex: Revision of the new anatomical t

Sex life coaching can show you how to have the hours-long sexathons with plenty of orgasms. Coaching can also lead you to your best quickie. The better you are with quickies, the better you are with fitting sexy time in; especially when you're a parent. Quickies often lead to an orgasm for him but not for her. Still, the sex was hot and fun and she doesn't have to come to have fun. Imagine a quickie where she could orgasm every time and climax faster-- before, during, or soon

A client got excited when I told her in her consultation about what I call layered orgasms and layered pleasures. The pleasures part is when you have two or more erogenous zones stimulated simultaneously. I call this the "sundae effect". The trick is how well you can do two or more at once and do them both well-- how good a sundae maker are you? The client had gone through partners being so-so to worse at doing one thing at a time. At best, a rare partner could do one thing w

A couples client I have (I'll call Mr. and Ms. Jones) gave permission for me to blog on some of their sex life coaching. They both were interested in easier, more plentiful orgasms-per-sexytime for her, new positions and methods for female orgasm during intercourse, and oral sex skills for Ms. Jones to indulge Mr. Jones with. In the consultation, they both admitted looking to porn for sex skill guidance and had little success in making the intensity of Mr. Jones' pleasure bet

I worked with a client at in the past (we’ll call her "Jennifer") to great success. Within two consecutive hours of a Guided Session a she had five orgasms. I asked Jennifer if I could blog on her successes and she said yes. She came to me with several goals. The first was learning how to make her orgasm easier to reach. The second was learning more pleasurable stimulation methods on the way to easier orgasms, the third was translating this into partner sex with her lovers,