Pain During Sex After Hysterectomy? Problem Solved.

Here is a positive testimonial from a fairly recent Talk Sessions client whom came to me with pain that would arise and increase on the way to orgasm. We solved her (and by association her husband's) issue with giving her strong sexual stimulation skill sets plus alternate routes to pleasure and orgasm:

"To say my work with Eric has been transformative is an understatement. I live with chronic pelvic pain, and prior to our sessions, I’d seen multiple OBGYNs, sex therapists, and pelvic floor PTs who mostly offered generic advice or referred me elsewhere. Despite all that professional input, I struggled to orgasm because of the pain. Eric and I found practical workarounds that allow me to experience intimacy with my partner without triggering a pain response. While I still navigate chronic pain, I no longer feel I have to ignore my sexuality—which had become my default. Through our conversations and his coaching, I’m now equipped to build a sexual life that actually works for me. I truly wish I’d started working with him years ago."

Talk Sessions are the coaching offering I have where coaching is given via discussion and the client(s) engage in sexual practice on their own without my presence. Guided Sessions are when client(s) engage in sexual action while I am present in-person or on video to coach, correct, and keep them on the right track without making sexual contact.

When women hire me on pain avoidance coaching, I always tell them that each person differs and we won't know what we can resolve until my methods are tried out. Though the key is in giving them the skills and understanding to most-effectively stimulate all of their pelvic-based erogenous zones. Issues can be as simple to solve as applying a better clitoral stimulation method, or more complex like combining clitoral pleasure, G-Spot pleasure, and a third or fourth pleasure zone. When stimulation of multiple pleasure and/or orgasm-inducing zones are effectively combined, the time to orgasm significantly reduces, which in my client's case was exactly what she needed. She was doing clitoral stimulation before working with me, but if she went too long, pain would set in and she'd have to stop. She said she never had this pattern prior to the hysterectomy.

I just mentioned the G-Spot, which she had never stimulated nor knew how to all the way to G-Spot orgasm, which triggers on a different path with different characteristics from clitoral. I said she definitely had to master the G because her pain patterns had been along the clitoral neurological line. I remember when we had a follow-up session and she happily reported having had her first G-Spot orgasm with her husband providing G-Spot stimulation and that the trip there did not illicit pain even though it was lengthy enough to have done so had clit play been in action. This proved what I said the day I taught her the G-Spot skills: just because one nerve path has issues doesn't mean they all do.

She later combined her clitoral play with her G-Spot play which made the entirety of the experience even more intense (like combining the strings and brass section in an orchestra) which on some occasions brough clitoral orgasm faster without pain setting in, then she would drop the clitoris love and go on with G pleasure till she came that way. Sometimes pain would arise at odd moments, but she would drop the clit stim and keep going elsewhere. Thus far, the G-Spot neuro line hasn't triggered pain, but it's a longer trip to orgasm if time is a factor.

We then branched out to breast and nipple stimulation mastery to combine that with genital play. That brought her and her husband into the full realm of above-plus-below-the-waist-erogenous-zones getting attention simultaneously. The old pattern is boobs get love as an appetizer, mostly for his desires to do so, and then are dropped for her pelvic-based pleasures. The new way is teaching her brain to get good at processing combined breasts-based and pelvic-based pleasure (when desired).

Skilled breast stimulation up to and throughout her orgasm is something, oddly enough, you never see in adult media (assuming you see a real female orgasm) when in reality, the two together significantly increases a woman's orgasm strength, often drops her time to orgasm, and definitely increases her overall thrill. This is an example of why I often say, "You will never learn what I teach from porn, because they rarely to never do what I'm doing." It seems maximizing a woman's sexual pleasure, orgasmic intensity, and full erotic potential is niche in most of a porn culture still too focused on voracious spectacle.

We also went over positions and position aids that make sex play easy or easier for the two of them when painful knees or other joints are an issue. It's hard to impossible orgasm when you're in unwanted pain. My Talk Sessions worked out fine for my clients' interests and they're excited to keep going with more coaching to their next level(s) in their sex lives.