I finished reading a story by Charles J Orlando on YourTango.com called "I Went Undercover On Ashley Madison To Find Out Why Women Cheat" where Orlando runs a simulation, as it were, presenting himself to wives on AshleyMadison.com looking for illicit trysts to see why they want an affair. Charles is also married. He made his plans clear to his wife beforehand and cancelled each faux affair's consummations after getting his intel.
Many of us have heard it before: wives in particular cheat most often when romance and partnered sexual pleasure aren't on the menu anymore. Men so often go all-in to get her: "I do!" then get career promotions and are seldom or never to be heard from in the bedroom again. It is an unofficial abandonment of the marriage that has happened for generations.
My guidance is, men in high responsibility positions are shackled, but they must choose to slip those cuffs more often. Get their minds meandering back toward hot, orgasmic sex with their gorgeous, beloved wives. Sex does get better and better with a spouse over the long term if you take the cultivation of your shared sex life on as a shared hobby. Couples get together over shared pastimes like a love of going to the theater or golf. Make haute sex your shared "hobby." People are devoted to their hobbies and my, how they go all-in. Also, when you have a sex life coach to move forward faster, that transition works.
If you keep going with the old, wife-ignoring way, you are on a road with the possibility of the agony, time sink, and massive expense of a divorce due to infidelity (by either person, or both), or the slow transformation of a romance life to the equivalent of roommates and/or parentbots: a term I use for a couple with minimal to no romantic connection who share nothing else in their relationship but child-rearing. Parentbots argue more often and are less thoughtful of each other. Why? Because a strong sexual/romantic connection is missing. All the warm and fuzzy side effects of that lost romantic heat never get to happen.
Furthermore, husbands marry the woman of their dreams, and then what? Keep her parked in the proverbial garage and taken out as arm candy at best? Husbands! Before or after that dinner you take her out to, have high-end sex in nice hotels with your hot wives. Or, start with sex round one at the hotel, break after orgasm(s), go to dinner, then go back to the hotel for round two. And if there's no time for that, well-worth it quickies are also on the menu.
This is the way, as they say. It gives both of you an oasis away from your demands that is more far epic than just a smooch and a dinner out with convo on how the middle kid is doing at soccer. You'll be rejuvenated from the stress of those time-greedy careers, poised when you're back in the office.
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