One debate that you hear if you're listening to different sex therapy or coaching professionals is whether you should be goal-oriented with your orgasms to have bigger and better ones, or not care about whether you have one and just enjoy the ride whether you have an orgasm or not. You get people who are divided in their opinions and stay that way. My position is they both have their place. Let's take the first one. Goal-orientation toward having orgasms as the first step and