Our culture's generalized path for how most of us begin and move through a sex life starts almost always with an intense turn on toward spontaneous sex. That if it's not spontaneous it's not hot or worth spending time doing. When you're single, it's much easier to pull that off as we know. With children, extra demands on our time, more responsibilities, etc, the inspiration and time for spontaneous sex decreases naturally. Because couples are fixed on this sex form, as I call