The Solution to No Sex or Bad Sex vs Infidelity or Divorce
Sex life coaching, the new sex therapy, often provides a solution to infidelity and divorce due to sexual problems.
A client wrote me an email the other day. It struck me, so I asked her permission to include excerpts in a blog post on how she sees my brand of sex life coaching as a solution to infidelity or divorce due to no sex or bad sex in a marriage. She agreed, as long as we changed the names of her and her husband. See my comments after the end of her email. Read on:
Ken used the manual sex skills you taught him last night and the orgasm he gave me felt like a back-arching impact. We are communicating so much better already with your methods we learned during our first session.
After reading Sex at Dawn, which is basically about how impossible that is… it makes me think that the services you offer are the answer. The transition from the model of long term monogamy to an open relationship is perhaps too much of a leap, at least for me at first contemplation. But… the other options are a lifetime of sexual frustration and boredom OR divorce and the dismantling of a family OR lies and betrayal. Perhaps there is one more option: Sex life coaching!
What I mean is, sex life coaching gives me a whole new world of sexual freedom and enjoyment within the boundaries of my relationship. I don’t have to choose from that dismal list of options. I can have big orgasms and mindblowing sex with my husband and him with me by learning with you! Who knew that he had a hidden erotica writing talent?! Your first session brought that out in him.
No one is talking about sex coaching.
I had never heard of it, ever.
All I know is, without it, I would have eventually cheated or left. We already did marriage counseling and while that fixed some things I’m happy for, it did nothing for our need for better sex. Sex therapy, per your info, wasn’t something I needed either. Just mindblowing sex and more intimacy.
Can’t wait to see what else there is!
I’d been thinking about this concept/solution for a long time, excited about helping people find an answer to age-old issues in a relationship and shared sex lives. What made me zing when I read it was to hear the same things I’ve been thinking come from someone else out there.
This is the kind of lifechanging that I wanted to do when I set out on this path back in 1999. It’s what I wanted to create in my apprenticeship with Betty Dodson; something that no one else had done before with the apprenticeship model of credentialing. It’s happening right now. Joyce is in her 40’s, hubby Ken in his 50’s. Not to say that they are the only age group that use sex life coaching, but she told me there are so many couples in her age group where the sex life just stops for many reasons, but they still love each other.
Another someone told me how couples share the raising of the kids as what they have fundamentally in common, but after that’s done, or finishing up, they look at each other and decide to divorce because they feel more like roommates than romantic partners. There are many reasons for this, however, I say mindblowing sex, like Joyce wants, is a very catalyzing element in a relationship.